I've been reading a book lately. Its called 'A Piece of Mirror and Other Essays' written by Daisuku Ikeda. He wrote about the many different aspects of life, such as 'Recipe for happy marriage', 'Young love', 'Dealing with stress', 'What is happiness' and many more. In each of these essays, he used some analogies which I feel its good; and he gives excellent opinions/encouragement as well. Well, let me share with you some of it.
Unlike the kind of trust that wavers depending on the situation, true love, in the deepest sense of a bond between two people, is something that develops in the face of rough seas.
But that does not mean that one partner has to always give in to the other, or that the happiness of one can be built on the suffering of the other.
Just like a song is a marriage of music and lyrics, husband and wife are equal individuals who, at the same time, perform a single melody of life together.
What is important, I think, is how beautiful a song these two life partners can create together.
"The two most important ingredients for a happy marriage are a sense of graditude and a common goal."
In today's society, phehaps a family could be thought of as an aeroplane.
Buffeted by the winds of change, the two co-pilots have the responsibility of assuming safe arrival.
The stability of an aeroplane in flight requires clear direction, momentum and constant effort.
And a successful flight requires that the co-pilots keep the same destination in sight.
'If you sacrifice your own growth and talent for love, you absolutely will not find happiness'
'To me, love should be a force that helps us expand our lives and bring out our potential with fresh vitality. This is the ideal, but all too often, people lose all objectivity when they fall in love.'
The question is...
'Does this person inspire you to work harder, or distract you from what you have to do?'
'Does their presence make you more determined to devote great energies to your activities, to be a better person?'
'Do they inspire you to realise you future goals and work towards them? Or is that person your central focus, overshadowing everything else?'
A healthy r/s is one in which two people encourage each other to reach their respective goals, while sharing each other's hopes and dreams.
A r/s should be a source of inspiration, invigoration and hope.
Rather than becoming so love-struck that you create a world in which other the two of you exist, it is much healthier to learn from those aspects of your loved ones that you respect and admir, and continue to make efforts to improve and develop yourself.
Wonder how much you readers agree on these, but I sure do. Actually he wrote more than these and I just extract those which I think would be useful and interesting to all. If any of you are interested, I could lend you the book. Will update more on what I've read!
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Hey! Glad u r enjoyin the book!
Maybe u can check this site out as well. http://www.ikedaquotes.org/
there are a lot of great quotes inside by President Ikeda too. =)
Maybe i share one that i quite like... =) it's also by President Ikeda.
We can lose ourselves in romantic attachment, but the truth is, the euphoria is unlikely to last for long. Indeed, the likelihood of undergoing suffering and sadness only grows over time. As long as we remain unable to redress our own weaknesses, we will be miserable no matter where or to whom we may take flight. We can never become truly happy unless we ourselves undergo a personal transformation.
wa piscean that idea is quite complex and not easy to understand wor... u understand wad President Ikeda is tryin to convey 100%?
well sort of. =)
from what i understand, if we can't correct our own fundamental weakness, we'd bring that weakness wherever we go, whoever we are with. natural tendency that is.
So for example, if i am an abusive person, & bcos of this pblm, i ended a relationship with someone. & i fail to realise this, chances are the nxt relationship is goin fail bcos of my abusive tendencies.
Of cos this is a bit extreme but it can take form like bad temper, dependency or laziness?
So at the end of the day, we must really work on our weak points and making constructive efforts to improving ourselves. & what President Ikeda might call, doing our Human Revolution. =)
i see... yea it really makes a lot of sense thanks on the xplanation. ^^
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